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Preferences/Racism

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While I usually write about things that I have my mind made up about, I would like to rather start this post with the purpose of trying to spark discussion and questions.

When it comes to choosing a partner, can you clearly define the line between “having a preference” and “being racist”?

For example: it is well-known amongst my friends that I just “don’t like white guys.” I wouldn’t say that I have never been attracted to a white guy, because, when I was very young, I did have an affinity for white boys. However, as I got older and gained more experience with all persons, I started becoming more attracted to “anything-but”. I tend to blame this on my interactions with white guys in my church’s youth group (obviously not too positive) and started to characterize white guys in general as having a gross feeling of entitlement over white women, as though, by virtue of our shared skin color and their penis-having, that I should feel attracted to them.

Things get more complicated, however, when I consider my “attraction” versus “those who I want to pursue.” I have only ever dated men who have at least one parent from Mexico, and tend to date men who are full-blooded Mexican. However, I have been attracted to a plethora of different kind of people, and tend to find men and women of all skin-colors (except Caucasian, of course) very attractive, regardless of whether that attraction reaches the level of sexual-attraction. I, in fact, often find that persons with the darkest of skin tones are the most attractive. I find that the people who I want to date have more qualities that I look for in a mate, and that the Mexican culture is something that I find attractive for my life.

(Full disclosure, however: in regards to finding people attractive based on their personalities, I found Ryan Gosling terribly, terribly attractive in “Crazy, Stupid, Love,” but not until he started being attracted to Emma Stone. Terribly attractive. Wanted to cry and tear my hair out, he was that attractive. Definitely not even in conjecture with his “Photoshopped” abs.)

I’m sure that psychologists, sociologists, etc. would have a field day with this information. But I’m more interested in the reactions of other people- is my distaste for white men racism, given that it is based on personality/actions of the general population? Or is it purely preference, as I have, in small doses, been attracted to white men? How are you attracted to people? Etc.

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Royally Pissed

 Well, finally! A place where little girls’ dreams and ambitions go to die.

Okay, that’s probably a bit harsh. I can understand that this ministry is seeking to help children by telling them early on that they should be focused on God, and that their identity is in God.

But in my own personal opinion, not only does this perpetuate and indoctrinate young girls into the idea that their whole life is dependent on God, but it also uses feminine stereotypes to do it. The entire message is built around the fact that a young girl said that she wanted to be a princess, and instead of her mother encouraging her to pursue dreams of fulfillment and success through college and a career, the mother says “you’re right, I’ll teach you how to be a princess… of God.”

Perhaps I wouldn’t be feeling such feminist indignation if the program weren’t counterbalanced by “Warrior Prince Academy,” a masculine program that shows little boys to be warriors for God. The girls get to be princesses, and the boys get to be warriors.

I would love to see a freethinking version of these camps, where children are exposed to different ideas and asked their opinions of it instead of being told what to do and think. But maybe I’m just a radical.